the T should never have been there. the first trans people were homosexual persons who transitioned to escape homophobia. the first trans men were lesbians trying to pass with their female partners as straight couples. the first trans women were gay men trying to pass with male partners as straight couples. there is a community of same sex attracted persons, and all same sex attracted persons are GNC by virtue of SSA because the first gender role is the expectation to marry a person of the opposite sex and rear children with said spouse. homosexuality is at odds with hetero marriage, and gender roles exist to uphold the institution of traditional marriage, so all persons who experience SSA are GNC. furthermore, if we dropped the T, who’s really being excluded/“kicked out”? not SSA trans men, who are still included as lesbians under the L (females exclusively attracted to females.) not SSA trans women, who are still included as gay men under the G (males exclusively attracted to males.) but if we dropped the T, who WOULD be excluded? heteros who fetishize homosexuality. fujoshis and autogynephiles who think homosexuality is bigotry. since they don’t experience SSA, the “T” is their ONLY claim to membership to the “queer club” they think we comprise. transgenderism exists only because of the heteronormative society in which we live. if we abolish gender, homosexual persons would never feel a need to try to pass as straight. would some individuals still experience dysphoria? perhaps, but the number of those who do would be far less. bottom line: heteros envy the SSA community and milk the “T” as a way to gain “access” to us and harrass us for being SSA. dropping the T does not drop any SSA persons, since the LGB already covers them. dropping the T serves only to exclude heteros, who by default aren’t SSA.
I just had this convo with some coworkers like… this is solid advice.
Especially necessary for women in long term relationships with men. Not only is it important to diversify your funds but you never ever want to be finacially tied up with a man
My ex stole two thirds of my monthly allotment and nearly half my back pay from the VA that we had invested in CDs when I left him after he threatened to kill me and my family. I called the bank to tell them that my money was missing and guess what?
It’s a joint account. Doesn’t matter who deposited it. It’s both your money.
Because I was foolish enough to believe this man was decent.
My sister had her entire account drained the day she informed her now ex-husband that she was leaving him on account of him beating her to a pulp in front of her children. He has been unemployed for most of their marriage. She worked so hard and succeeded in a mostly male field and in a flash, ALL of her money, gone.
My boyfriend’s ex wife hasnt had a job in over 40 years and when they divorced she got 50% of EVERYTHING, I mean the house, his cars, his savings, his CDs and other investments, as well as 50% of his retirement pension. And the fucked up part is that he set up multiple bank accounts and investments and life insurance FOR HER, all with his own money, but she didn’t have to split those with him so she got well over 75% of every dollar he has ever made. And she continues to get a monthly check from the state that comes out of his retirement check TO THIS DAY. She literally makes more money every month than he does and it’s all his fucking money.
So yeah honestly gender isn’t even a factor here, anyone can get fucked over in this situation. You don’t even have to have joint accounts. If you’re married then you’re “legally entitled” wether your name is on the paperwork or not (depending on the local laws where you live).
THIS IS AS IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN.
If you don’t have a job because you are at home, raising the kids, you SHOULD get AT LEAST half of the guy’s money upon divorce because YOU CAN’T GET A JOB EASILY WITHOUT RECENT WORK HISTORY.
I’m glad his exwife got her fair share, and I’m sorry he’s tricked you into thinking he got fucked over financially. It was his choice to open those accounts for her, in her name I’m presuming, and that was nice of him. It then became her money. Everything else, they were supposed to share as he was the sole breadwinner. 50/50 is thus a FAIR split. She got what she was legally entitled to, nothing more.
I just had this convo with some coworkers like… this is solid advice.
Especially necessary for women in long term relationships with men. Not only is it important to diversify your funds but you never ever want to be finacially tied up with a man
My ex stole two thirds of my monthly allotment and nearly half my back pay from the VA that we had invested in CDs when I left him after he threatened to kill me and my family. I called the bank to tell them that my money was missing and guess what?
It’s a joint account. Doesn’t matter who deposited it. It’s both your money.
Because I was foolish enough to believe this man was decent.
My sister had her entire account drained the day she informed her now ex-husband that she was leaving him on account of him beating her to a pulp in front of her children. He has been unemployed for most of their marriage. She worked so hard and succeeded in a mostly male field and in a flash, ALL of her money, gone.
Get your own bank account and deposit your income into your account. Most women plan for their weddings for over a year. Put at least that much thought into your financial independence.
When it comes to men, there are NO “good ones.” Men will not think twice before ruining your financial life for revenge, because men are not like women. They are entitled, abusive, and that applies to every single one. It’s not “fierce” to get your own bank account. It’s protective.
My father managed my parent’s finances for the last few years and although my mom was the primary on the account, it was still a joint account. When things started looking like divorce, he started siphoning money away to a private account, while playing mr nice “dont worry I wont leave you on the street once we’re divorced, I’ll help you get on your feet”. He had also changed the password, which is what ended up making mom suspicious and going to the bank herself. She discovered what had been happening, kicked him off the account, and changed the password again, but it was too late. There was $700 left in the account. She had loved this man, been married for 17 years, been with him for 20. She had cleaned house, raised us kids, been a “good wife”. But he still cheated on her, still disrespected her, still circumvented the system to make sure she was left with almost nothing.
When the divorce agreement was signed, mom still had to split that 700$ with him, as it had been in a previously joint account. He took away her health insurance, refused to pay for a mammogram she had just gotten the previous week, and cancelled their car insurance. At the end of 17 years of marriage with a man she loved and trusted, all she got was a broken heart, $350, and a stack of bills.
Fuck men. Look after your own finances and make sure if something happens, you will be okay.
yknow ive been thinking a lot abt that post where that trans woman talked about binding her feet to make them smaller and less male-appearing and it really just made me realize that the reason trans women define their womanhood through femininity is because femininity is all men think we are. males forced us into femininity and now they have no idea who or what a woman is outside of this structure. they think that women are only the things theyve given to us and nothing else, that women are man-made. they cannot fathom that we are whole people and that we have qualities we’ve cultivated ourselves, independent of the oppressive sterotypes theyve shackled us to.
THIS TRANS WOMAN BINDED HER FEET BECAUSE OF CRIPPLING DYSPHORIA.
Being trans is not a joke or a way for you to push your man hating propaganda. She feels genuine discomfort with appearing male, how the fuck can you spin that as somehow both anti-trans AND anti-male.
trans women are male lmao
being trans is not an excuse to equate restrictive, violent gender roles with womanhood. foot binding is a practice that has been used to subdue and harm thousands of women. it’s not a treatment for dysphoria or a fun diy transition. get the fuck off my post and have some respect for actual women who have been hurt by this practice
Foot binding is an ancient Chinese practice used to make women completely dependent on their husbands to get around. They essentially folded their feet in half over decades in order to achieve a harmful standard in order to be marriageable. I don’t give a shit if you’re dysphoric or not, that’s just straight up ignorant
Yo as a Chinese woman myself? This is horrifying. Hearing of a transwoman binding his feet in an attempt to appear more feminine, fills me with a sort of disgust that I can only tap into in interaction with these autogynephilic males. My female ancestors have suffered for millenniums at the hands of males. Males who bared such a strong hatred of women and such deep male insecurity, that they would bind their women’s feet, thus creating a false sense that women were naturally male-dependent creatures. All the better for these men that the women were pained through the process.
For a male to use such a practice as his own personal validation diy, is revolting. It is beyond misogynistic, and extremely racist. I hope he gets what he deserves.
Women performed foot binding on their daughters, so it’s not “at the hands of males” directly, and that’s very important here.
Feeling the need to physically harm yourself or your daughters to have “feminine” characteristics like small feet is not appropriating the oppression of people who have been mutilated for not being feminine. It’s the opposite side of the exact same coin; the social ostracism for having “masculine” features is severe enough for both cis and trans women that women regularly harm themselves with starvation, corset tightlacing, trying to make their feet small, etc.
Trans women have foot size dysphoria very often. Ordinary women’s shoes are not available in larger sizes like men’s shoes are. You’re completely glossing over realities of the situation, so that you can claim that the intention was to appropriate Chinese history when in fact the intention was plain and simple self harm.
please do not try and belittle what MALES have done to chinese women, as i highly doubt you are also chinese.
listen, i know that tras don’t understand that outside sources can influence decisions, but do you really think that those mothers woke up one day thinking that it would be fun to bind their daughters’ feet? do you real think it was women who started that practice.
the only reasons chinese women did this to themselves and their daughters was because it was an extremely emphasized social precedent, one set up by MALES.
please read up a bit on confucianism and it’s devasting harm to chinese women. if you knew shit about about the history of confucianism (created by an extremely misogynist male, led by many more extremely misogynist males), then you wouldn’t be denying that it effected their culture. it was all male doing.
for the love of god just read a book
Yes but this woman wasn’t doing that because she was appropriating Confucianism. She was doing it because she was self harming herself due to dysphoria. Do you see the distinction?
He would only bind his feet to lessen the effects of dysphoria, if he was making some sort of connection between womanhood and small feet/foot binding. Either is misogynist, because
1. a woman is no less of a woman if she has big feet. the fact that this dysphoric male need to literally hold himself to an exaggerated caricature of femininity in order to feel valid is disgusting. if the core of the problem was wanting to feel like a woman, then why would he not, say, actually speak to women and learn a thing or two about what being a woman really meand? about who women really are? rather, his felt he wasn’t being validated enough as a woman because his feet were too big. stop enforcing gender roles with this shit. he has crippling dysphoria, okay. that does not excuse his twisted perceptions of womanhood.
2. naturally, associating inherent womanhood with mutilating oneself for the looks, is deeply misogynistic. i’m really hoping you aren’t enough of a dumbass to disagree with that one
These men rely so much on femininity as womanhood it makes me sick.
If you actually talk to a real fucking woman, you’ll find we aren’t at all like their disgusting fantasies of us.
I’ve got huge, mannish feet. I’m still a fucking woman.
“Trans women have foot size dysphoria very often. Ordinary women’s shoes are not available in larger sizes like men’s shoes are.”
Are you fucking serious. Guess what, I usually have to wear men’s shoes and boots because the women’s largest sized “wide” (when that option even exists) is still too small for my feet. Still a woman!
i almost always wear men’s shoes bc they arr much more comfortable and longer lasting, guess what, still a woman. fuck TRAs
Don’t be confused by the female pronouns. This is a MALE committing MALE VIOLENCE
he better goes to male prison and rot in there
He knows he’ll get what he deserves in prison so he’s trying to move to women’s prison where he won’t get raped or beaten instead maybe even rape women so….
Women living their own lives… women pursuing their own interests and passions, no matter how weird and unusual society might deem them, women with so much energy, “ugly” but heartfelt laughs, and warm, kind hearts. Women who love themselves and their lives.
I thought I’d been doing good at flagging and blocking porn blogs that tried to follow me but I just glanced at my follower list and saw some so went to go clean and THERE ENDED UP BEING ALMOST 20 THAT HAD SLIPPED THROUGH MY NOTICE. HOW???? That’s 10% of my followers!!!!
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