pussyfemme:

i really don’t care if this sounds mean

cocksmasher69:

iloveradfems:

parttimepup:

fuck-ler:

…dare I say veterans being the public image of PTSD in america is deliberate propaganda to make us sympathize with soldiers who kill people overseas ? way more women have PTSD than men, and a lot have it from sexual and domestic violence, not combat.

It’s a two for one: glorify military service while erasing domestic violence and prostitution.

Prostituted women have higher PTSD rates than veterans…

Men don’t think women suffer at all

specgram:

Speech Errors—Victoria Fromkin’s spudy of steech errors was well-received.

polite-radical-feminist:

spooky-rad-luka:

happibeans:

Radfems, stop saying “tr/nny”. Just stop.

Some of us really need to keep this “rude feminism” in check. Radical feminism doesn’t excuse you from saying really disgusting things for the sake of “women’s liberation”.

Yesterday, I was scrolling through a radfem Instagram page and I came across a post with a comment that wasn’t right to me:

When I first got into radical feminism, “tr/nny” was thrown around a lot. It didn’t bother me at first because I followed many rudefems and thought their insults and aggression was entertaining and kinda inspirational (to not give a fuck about saying things so controversial, yet true, and so blunt and fierce was the kind of confidence and assertiveness I looked up to). The impact of the word to the libfems and TRAs that opposed it didn’t seem like anything to be react so fatalistically over like they did, especially considering the weight of the harm they inflict with their misogynistic, homophobic, and racist rhetoric, wacktivism, and even violent threats and assaults.

But then I came across some posts that basically discussed and addressed the “rudefems” vs. “nicefems” tactics. To my surprise it’s actually a touchy subject in this community. The posts were mainly by radfems that didn’t see the effectiveness or completely opposed the impulsive and incessant hostility and aggression of “rudefems”. Some called them “nicefems”.

At first I didn’t agree with the “nicefems”, if you will, and instead sided with other radfems that pointed out how being “nice” didnt get women anywhere, especially when we are expected to be nice even after the subjugation by the hands of men we have faced for millennia. But later, I considered moreso the validity of such messages addressing “rudefem” hostility. By being exposed to those posts addressing the issue of rude feminism, I paid more attention and realized the ineffectiveness of being overtly and immediately hostile with name calling in particular. As a result, the dehumanizing aspects in the word “tr/nny”, although does not share the same institutional and generational impact and intention as the n-word like I’ve seen libfems and TRAs try, become more clear, and whenever I see radfems use it, I cringe in disappointment and slight disgust.

“Tr/nny” is a slur. We shouldn’t say it because it doesn’t just insult the harmful TRAs and trans people we call out and criticize, it dehumanizes them. There is no need to say such a word that encompasses all trans folks and intends to deems them inferior and subhuman because of their transness. It’s a homophobic slur, rooted in reprhensuon toward the gender non conformity of a minority composed largely of homosexuals (or at least it used to). In a way, it’s also ableist because it dehumanizes people with dysphoria who chose to transition (socially and/or hormonally/surgically) as a way to alleviate the pain of their medical condition. All around “tr/nny” is a nasty word and we are not above anything to keep using it to insult trans people (even TIMs).

That comment above didn’t just bother me because it used the t-slur against a trans person. It’s bothered me because of how that person specified the race of the trans person in question, Laverne Cox, right next to that slur.

I usually ignore and roll my eyes at the sight of a radfem using the t-slur questionably but when I read what that person wrote, it felt different. “Black tr/nny” made me physically feel different, like a brief but actual cringe and weird feeling in my chest, when I read it. It was racist.

I can no longer sit idly by or ignore it when radfems say some really nasty shit. I have voiced my issues with other things that have been said about other issues, and even though I am new to the Instagram radfem community, I knew I had to confront that person about their words; I can’t see and let people I’m supposed to look up to, learn from, and have sorority with say such harmful things. So I confronted that woman:

I could tell she was a rudefem, not just by her bio, but by her response. So focused in being dismissive and patronizing, she seemingly deliberately missed the point. Rude. So I responded again, giving them a little bit of the same energy she gave me, when what she gave me at first was uncalled for:

Then…. This. Shit:

I was not having it. I was not rude to her. I didn’t want to antagonize her. I simply wanted to tell her to cinsider that what she said was very problematic and that even in our anger as feminists we can cross unacceptable lines. But no. Being rude and fierce is more important than “nuance” and listening.

She was incredibly patronizing, condescending, arrogant, dismissive; she was rude. It was so uncalled for and in her doing so she exposed the racist in her. I responded with the same energy to address her nasty attitude and make a general statement about what her behavior reflected in our community:

Our anger is a reaction to our oppression justified but cannot be unlimited.

We need to be better in checking each other in our words and expressions.

Our feminism doesn’t call for or represent such ugliness and hostility, even toward the people we criticize.

I am not telling you to be less assertive and fierce in the face of our oppressors and opposers; I’m not telling you to be “nice”. I’m saying that we as radfems are not above anyone to say such nasty things then deflect concerns about what we say just because we are fighting for our liberation.

We should start by recognizing that “tr/nny” is a slur against trans people that we should stop using in our activism/commentary. We should know better than to use a dehumanizing slur targeting a minority. Even though the trans community is hella problematic and over the years has gained attention and impunity to regressed into intense misogyny, homophobia, and racism that harms women in particular politically and socially, we should not stoop so low, just as low and dehumanize like trans people with such a word intended to encompass all trans people as inferior.

We should know better. So we should do better.

I disagree with the misgendering of a transitioned trans woman but the points are still important

It’s true that being nice didn’t really get feminist of the past anywhere but I don’t think throwing slurs around will get us anywhere.

phalloid-destroyer:

felinesassosaurus:

brothernatures:

its-probably-all-elves:

marvus-x0loto:

feministfront:

your-naked-magic-oh-dear-lord:

fairydusts:

girl culture is turning around every few feet when you’re walking alone to see if someone’s following u

Learn to peep through the corner of your eye so you’re not quite so obvious when you turn.

Putting in your earphones so hopefully no random men try to talk to/harass you but not actually playing music so you can listen for footsteps/other suspicious noises behind you.

feeling like someone is following you and subtly shifting whatever object you’re holding into a better grip so you can use it as a bludgeon if the person behind you tries anything

Being fucking terrified when street lamps give you more than one shadow

just girly things~🌟

Ok, buckle up for some advice from your local redhead who grew up in a collection of iffy neighborhoods.

Square. The Frick. Up.

No one to fight? No one near? Square Up.

Leaving work late? Going out on public transit? Square Up.

Don’t know how to fight? Terrified? Square Up.

Square Up doesn’t mean fists up and ready to punch in this case it just means shoulders back chin up and walk like you might be late for an argument.

The deal with the threats we face is that it’s classic predator/prey dynamics. Preds look for prey, not other preds. Walk like a predator not prey. Sometimes that doesn’t work. Sometimes that one pred doesn’t get the idea.

Sucks to be them. Cuz they’re not getting out of this without a serious slice of humble pie. Be it a simple comment or getting their skin cells under your fingernails, that’s up to them. Don’t talk more than absolutely necessary, keep it short and powerful. “I don’t have time” seems to work best for me bc it’s urgent, true, and usually not insulting enough to feel like a challenge. Stay visible, never hide.

You’ve been grabbed? Grab. Them. Back. Your hand over their wrist, nails digging into the softest skin possible. Take the power, take the situation, it’s yours. You grab that wrist and lean back, pivot on your feet, turn and use both your strength and body weight to swing them off of you. Yell. “Do not touch me!” They’ll usually become less interested after this point, you’re putting up too much of a fight, you’re ‘a psycho bitch’. Damn right you are you gorgeous beast.

If they don’t give up on you, God forbid, they attack? Go for broke. Hit the soft parts, throat and genitals are the best. Men: grab a handful of the Twins and squeeze as hard as you can while pulling and twisting. Women: same deal up top, tiddies are sensitive as we’re just as prone to crotch-shots as men. Can’t do that? Bite and Scratch. Get their evidence on you and yours on them. Nothing is more incriminating than a human bite mark. Be the reason they need to go to a hospital.

Yell and scream as much as possible, I don’t care what just scream.

No direct threat? Just the ol anxiety playing up? Trust your gut, the one time you don’t will be the one time you wish you did.

Contrary to popular belief, you can call emergency services. Tell the operator “I’m walking home and feel unsafe” and they’ll stay on the line with you, might even send a nearby squad car to give you a lift home. Don’t feel safe calling the police? Call or text your closest relationship. Talk to them the whole way back, text them every five minutes like clockwork.

All these things are two pronged: address the immediate threat and aid investigators in the future should the worst occur. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Have a well meaning but maybe dense friend? Ask them to walk with you, they may not have known you were scared.

Most people are great, they’ll help you even if you’re a frazzled thing pounding on their front door past midnight bc the shadows aren’t trustworthy. Go for the house with the nicest garden, I’ve never met a mean green thumb they’re always the loveliest.

Be safe. Take charge. Square Up. ❤️

My personal experience on this, apart from being a female and growing up always checking from over my shoulder, gripping tighter to whatever object i’m holding and holding my breath whenever i see more than one shadow, always having my phone ready to dial if i’m walking alone at nights, going home on different paths, always having my guard up for noticing a predator etc. i have noticed a DRASTIC, TREMENDOUS change when i changed the way i walked. I wasn’t walking stereotypically femininely or anything, but regardless, when i changed my walking from normal to overly-dominant-man-like, men stopped looking at me, checking me out or following me. I noticed this almost like 5/6 days after i started. I would shake my arms and glared to whatever man that looked at me and they would move on. but it got so tiresome i stopped. it was such a nice feeling tho. that feeling when you’re not constantly being targeted as a sex object…