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scorpio-baee:

starinyourhand:

bitter-badfem-harpy:

parttimepup:

girlsmoonsandstars:

I just had this convo with some coworkers like… this is solid advice.

Especially necessary for women in long term relationships with men. Not only is it important to diversify your funds but you never ever want to be finacially tied up with a man

My ex stole two thirds of my monthly allotment and nearly half my back pay from the VA that we had invested in CDs when I left him after he threatened to kill me and my family. I called the bank to tell them that my money was missing and guess what?

It’s a joint account. Doesn’t matter who deposited it. It’s both your money.

Because I was foolish enough to believe this man was decent.

My sister had her entire account drained the day she informed her now ex-husband that she was leaving him on account of him beating her to a pulp in front of her children. He has been unemployed for most of their marriage. She worked so hard and succeeded in a mostly male field and in a flash, ALL of her money, gone.

My boyfriend’s ex wife hasnt had a job in over 40 years and when they divorced she got 50% of EVERYTHING, I mean the house, his cars, his savings, his CDs and other investments, as well as 50% of his retirement pension. And the fucked up part is that he set up multiple bank accounts and investments and life insurance FOR HER, all with his own money, but she didn’t have to split those with him so she got well over 75% of every dollar he has ever made. And she continues to get a monthly check from the state that comes out of his retirement check TO THIS DAY. She literally makes more money every month than he does and it’s all his fucking money.

So yeah honestly gender isn’t even a factor here, anyone can get fucked over in this situation. You don’t even have to have joint accounts. If you’re married then you’re “legally entitled” wether your name is on the paperwork or not (depending on the local laws where you live).

THIS IS AS IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN.

If you don’t have a job because you are at home, raising the kids, you SHOULD get AT LEAST half of the guy’s money upon divorce because YOU CAN’T GET A JOB EASILY WITHOUT RECENT WORK HISTORY.

I’m glad his exwife got her fair share, and I’m sorry he’s tricked you into thinking he got fucked over financially. It was his choice to open those accounts for her, in her name I’m presuming, and that was nice of him. It then became her money. Everything else, they were supposed to share as he was the sole breadwinner. 50/50 is thus a FAIR split. She got what she was legally entitled to, nothing more.

crwatters:

genderqueerpositivity:

crwatters:

genderqueerpositivity:

I am now even more strongly in favor of removing sex and gender markers from identification and legal documents.

I see no reason for the government to collect and keep information about gender identity or assigned sex on an individual basis. The only time that question should be asked is during a census, and answering it should be voluntary.

Remove sex and gender markers from drivers licences, passports, voter registration cards, and birth certificates.

At best, legal gender/sex markers can be inaccurate. At worst? They can be weaponized by the state and used to enable oppression against already vulnerable communities.

Protect trans, nonbinary, gender non-conforming, and gender diverse lives.

Asab markers are vital for medical emergencies though!! If you’re in a really bad car accident and can’t identify yourself to the first responders, they look for your driver’s license or other form of identification. Knowing whether you’re amab or afab gives them a lot of medical information, tbh (one of my best friends is an EMT). So really it’s in your best interest to have that marker on at least some identifying materials for health reasons, even if those reasons are extenuating circumstances.

Y’all keep making this argument and it makes zero sense.

Why exactly is the sex marker on my identification vital to medical emergencies?

My driver’s license doesn’t have my blood type on it. It doesn’t list my chronic illnesses. It doesn’t list what medications I require. It doesn’t tell anyone about my penicillin allergy or thrombocytosis.

The sex marker on my identification literally gives them zero medical information.

And what about trans people who’ve already changed their sex markers? Or intersex people who never had the correct sex listed on their identification anyway? Or, hell, cis people who have lost reproductive organs due to cancer?

I might or might not have a uterus. I might be intersex and not know it. I might or might not have had a hysterectomy or prostate cancer or gender reassignment surgery. We just don’t know.

Are we all at the mercy of medical professionals who simply cannot diagnose or treat without knowing which letter is on our driver’s licenses? Gods forbid I break a leg on a day when I leave my wallet at home, pandemonium will ensue.

If what you say is true, it’s very bad news for all of us.

But I’ve spent an unfortunate amount of time in doctor’s offices and emergency rooms….and you’re wrong.

/shrug

Okay I admit you have a point on the leaving the card at home and the hormones thing, but sex IS important to healthcare, and healthcare in emergency situations. And that’s why I’m strongly in favor of it remaining on documents/records. Maybe it can come off some, but I think in general the benefits outweigh the disadvantages. Anyway, here’s evidence on the healthcare thing:

Quoted from the source linked here:

Returning to our original patients: If that coughing and wheezing febrile premee is a boy he is at greater risk for a bad outcome due to his prenatal testosterone causing a delay in his lung maturity. If the patient with afib is a woman, she is at higher risk to stroke out and her stroke is more likely to be hemorrhagic. In addition, she is at a greater risk for developing both a prolonged Qtc from certain anti-arrhythmics, and for digoxin toxicity. Not to mention that she will require smaller amounts of warfarin. What about that soccer player? Although there is conflicting evidence, several studies suggest that women are more susceptible to concussions and perform more poorly on post-concussive neurocognitive testing. Some of this may be related to anatomical differences in neck structure and the smaller size of a female’s shock absorbing lateral ventricle. And finally if you are going to write out an Ambien prescription for that stressed out law student remember to ½ the dose if the patient is female to prevent excessive residual AM drowsiness that may impair her ability to drive.

The National Academy of Medicine said it best, “Sex does matter. It matters in ways that we did not expect. Undoubtedly, it also matters in ways that we have not begun to imagine.”

I swear genderists remind me more and more of creationists every day. There comes a point where you wonder how much of the ignorance is legit and how much is intentional burying their heads in the sand