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ambris:

This can’t be topped

tervbian:

getoffmyastroterf:

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neurodivergent-crow:

a-singular-canadian:

saphire-dance:

uppityfemale:

If people don’t think women’s bodies are being controlled, they aren’t looking hard enough.

In contrast my husband got a vasectomy and no one even once suggested I might have an opinion on that.

ok so lemme take a minute here to just be fucking mad as all hell.

I don’t like to butt in on people’s posts, lord knows I don’t like starting shit but lemme take a second to tell y’all about getting ur lady bits put out of comission.

I, at the age of 12 years, was diagnosed with PCOS. For you that don’t know what that is, PCOS, or Poly-Cystic Ovarian Syndrome, is a LIFELONG medical condition where groups of cysts grow on your ovaries causing the production of female hormones in your body to go batshit nuts and cause a whole sideshow of different symptoms such as but not limited to:

• Irregular cardiac function (it’s a scary time)
• severe weight gain and trouble losing weight (i may eat healthy and work out daily but until I was down to 1-2 meals a day of spinach i wasn’t losing weight)
• severe adolescent acne, and adult acne
• extra hair on the face, chest, arms, legs, thumbs, belly and back (I shave my face everyday before class and usually before I go to bed)
• thinning hair on the scalp due to an excess of male hormones
• irregular or no periods 
• HEAVY periods
• EXTREME PERIOD PAIN
• depression and anxiety
• pelvic pain
• increased risk for type 2 diabetes
• Increased for all female reproductive cancers due to infrequency of periods

Now, TMI, but I recently had my first period in 6 FUCKING YEARS. Due to the nature of PCOS generally when you have a period it’s because one of the cysts on your ovaries has burst releasing a flood of hormones into your system as well as built up toxins. Basically, when I had mine my body went into full on panic mode, nausea and vomiting, extreme fatigue, mood swings like you wouldn’t believe, my body went from being relatively alright to the cliffs of fucking Gallipoli in an hour flat. The kicker was on top of all that I had cramping so bad I actually blacked out. 

Given that I know this is likely to happen again before I reach menopause, I decided to book an appointment with my local Planned Parenthood (applaud those lovely people and what they do) to see what my options were to make sure it never happens again. After telling me about various hormonal treatments they could prescribe me (not pills but IUDs shots and various other things) I asked them if it was possible for me to get a partial hysterectomy. A partial hysterectomy removes the uterus but keeps the ovaries so that they still are able to produce estrogen. The lady I had the appointment with looked at me with a look of the utmost pity and told me that unfortunately due to my age there would be likely no chance for any doctor to do it. When I pressed her on the topic she said that the most common excuse doctors will give you for it is that you’re too young, you might change your mind and want to have children later in life. 

Now I dunno if y’all reading this are currently seeing anything wrong with this scenario here but I was told that I, someone who can’t have kids, doesn’t want kids, has never wanted kids, and would be put at severe risk of life threatening complications, have to have had children before anyone would consider giving me a surgery that not only would undoubtedly improve the quality of my life but also remove

Well, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to get a referral from her during the appointment, I went home and decided to research this bullshit. Turns out that there is something commonly evoked when women want to have any part of their reproductive system put out of commission called the three child rule. Basically if you are young, doctors usually wont let you get either a hysterectomy or a partial hysterectomy UNLESS you have already had three children. 

HOLD THE MOTHERFUCKING PHONE FOR A WHOLE SECOND AND THINK ABOUT THIS

By most doctors standards, YOU are REQUIRED as a woman to PHYSICALLY GIVE BIRTH to at least 3 CHILDREN before you are able to have any of your reproductive system removed or decommissioned. 

And that isn’t even the worst part of it all, these standards DO NOT change when the patient is at high risk for reproductive cancers!

How fucking miserable is it that to take control of your own fucking health in a first world country a woman has to have submitted to the gender roles of having children or actually have contracted cancer or some other immediately life threatening condition.

Meanwhile, the only requirements for men to receive a vasectomy (at least int he states) is that they’re over the age of 18 and are of sound mind and body.

I’m crying rn I want a hysterectomy so bad but THIS ^^^^^^

I had 2 kids and they refus3d to tie my tubes bc they told me idk what i want nd they know better then me.

Yeah I had two kids and the doctor said (I shit you not) “what if one of them dies and you want another one?”

A: my children aren’t pets and

B: the death of one of my children would destroy me, not make me want another. Also

C: IT’S NOT THEIR DECISION TO MAKE!

i hate this shit. like seriously i want one so bad bc of how much pain im in from endo and legjt the doctor told me the same thing “have kids and then you can have one” like WTF i dont want kids?? and if i do ill adopt???? also when you have endo it can be dangerous to the kid and the mother so wtf are doctors on

elisebrave:

Hestia, goddess of the hearth