luttie:

andmancreated-sexual-suicide:

feminismandhappiness:

goodbyesocialconstructs:

A
new study of Harvard Business School graduates from HBS’s Robin Ely and
Colleen Ammerman and Hunter College sociologist Pamela Stone shows that
high-achieving women are not meeting the career goals they set for
themselves in their 20s. It’s not because they’re “opting out” of the
workforce when they have kids, but because they’re allowing their
partners’ careers to take precedence over their own.

The study’s
authors interviewed 25,000 men and women who graduated from Harvard
Business School over the past several decades. The male graduates were
much more likely to be in senior management positions and have more
responsibility and more direct reports than their female peers. But why?
It’s not because women are leaving the workforce en masse. The authors
found, definitively, that the “opt-out” explanation is a myth. Among Gen
X and baby boomers they surveyed, only 11 percent of women left the
workforce to be full-time moms. That figure is lower for women of
colour—only 7 percent stopped working. The vast majority (74 percent) of
Gen Xers, women who are currently 32-48 and in the prime of their
child-rearing years, work full time, an average of 52 hours a week.

But
while these women are still working, they are also making more
unexpected sacrifices than their male classmates are. When they
graduated, more than half of male HBS grads said they expected their
careers would take precedence over their partners’. Only 7 percent of
Gen X women and 3 percent of baby boomer women said they expected their
careers to take precedence. Here’s what they did expect: The majority of
women said they assumed they would have egalitarian marriages in which
both spouses’ careers were taken equally seriously.

A lot of
those women were wrong. About 40 percent of Gen X and boomer women said
their spouses’ careers took priority over theirs, while only about 20
percent of them had planned on their careers taking a back seat. Compare
that with the men: More than 70 percent of Gen X and boomer men say
their careers are more important than their wives’. When you look at
child care responsibilities, the numbers are starker. A full 86 percent
of Gen X and boomer men said their wives take primary responsibility for
child care, and the women agree: 65 percent of Gen X women and 72
percent of boomer women—all HBS grads, most of whom work—say they’re the
ones who do most of the child care in their relationships.

Of
course, marital arrangements aren’t the only force holding women back.
Part of the reason these women aren’t advancing at the same rate as
their male counterparts is that after they have kids, they get
“mommy-tracked.” In many ways, they’re not considered management
candidates anymore. “They may have been stigmatized for taking advantage
of flex options or reduced schedules, passed over for high-profile
assignments, or removed from projects they once led,” the authors note.
Other studies support these findings, as they have shown that there is a
real, substantial motherhood penalty that involves lower pay and fewer
promotions for women with kids, because employers assume they will be
less dedicated to their jobs (as do, we now know, their husbands).

But
the personal piece of the female achievement gap puzzle is important,
and it’s something that’s very difficult to shift. The study’s authors
note that while millennial HBS grads are a little more egalitarian than
their older peers, half of the youngest men still assume that their
careers will take precedence, and two-thirds of them assume their
spouses will do the majority of child care.

Important info, but I hate the way this was written.

“It’s not because they’re “opting out” of the
workforce when they have kids, but because they’re allowing their
partners’ careers to take precedence over their own.“ but because they have self-indulgent patriarchal male partners that encourage and expect them to give up their career dreams in favor of catering to their families, something the men themselves are too self-entitled and lazy to do.

Also big shoutout to all those millennial male HBS grads that are still patriarchal and entitled. And by shoutout I mean fuck you.

After reading this, these just became 200% more annoying

…she IS helping you, at her own expense, you insufferable brat….

This shit has always pissed me off

Men don’t change.

Children Don’t Ruin Women’s Careers-Husbands Do, Harvard Study Finds

facts-before-ideology:

Inside a handsome brick building on a tree-lined street near Brooklyn’s Prospect Park lay one of the city’s dirtiest secrets.

As people strolled past the Prospect Heights home on their way to the
park, the Brooklyn Museum or a bar where celebrated authors give
readings for The New Yorker crowd, two 16-year-old girls were allegedly
being kept inside as sex slaves.

For one harrowing month last year, the teens’ captors forced them to
strip to their underwear, pose for Backpage.com ads and have sex with up
to 10 johns a day, prosecutors charge.

The girls were saved when one of them escaped in July and ran to
police. But they are just two of the thousands of sex slaves being
trafficked under the noses of New York City residents every day, part of
a silent epidemic that law enforcement is struggling to contain.

“This is going on everywhere. Down the street, in the rich
neighborhood, the poor — whether you’re white, yellow, green, blue. It
cuts across different ethnicities, religious backgrounds, economic
backgrounds,” Laura Riso, an FBI victims specialist in New York City,
tells The Post.

“It’s enormous.”

Last year, the NYPD rescued one person a week from sex slavery and
busted 228 pimps while working 265 sex trafficking cases — more than
double the number in 2016.

But officials know they’re just scraping the surface.

“Trafficking is a bigger problem” than what the numbers show, says
Inspector Jim Klein, commander of the NYPD’s Vice Enforcement Unit and a
36-year department veteran.

“I have 200-and-however-many pimps I’ve locked up. On average, a pimp
is going to have at least four or five women, girls, that he’s going to
be working. [And] I haven’t locked up every pimp.

“It’s modern-day slavery.”

Through interviews with top law enforcement officials, prosecutors,
advocates and victims from around the five boroughs, The Post has pieced
together a picture of New York’s sex-slavery underbelly — and the
struggle to end it.

“People are shocked to hear that it actually exists in New York City,” says Manhattan District Attorney Cyrus Vance Jr.

“This is not a case where you have super-high-priced, fancy sex
businesses — this is really disgusting, forced, cruel, cold. Taking kids
who are in need of help, preying upon that need, developing a
relationship and then turning against them and turning them into kids
who are making money for them on the street — those are the cases that
we get.”

Thanks to Hollywood films such as “Taken,” people who hear the term
“sex trafficking” often think of a sorority girl kidnapped and chained
to a radiator by men with foreign accents.

But the average victim is a vulnerable girl from a troubled home who
has already been sexually abused and is first sold for sex as young as
12.

The girls often aren’t detained at gunpoint — not at first, anyway —
but are instead manipulated into “the life” by smooth-talking pimps
promising a better life.

Some are even dazzled by glamorized portrayals of prostitutes in
songs, movies and books — like a 14-year-old girl who told Queens
prosecutors she had been inspired to turn tricks by the 2005 Snoop Dogg
film “Boss’n Up.”

“Her aspiration was for [her pimp] to fall in love with her if she
made enough money,” says Queens Assistant District Attorney Jessica
Melton, chief of the Human Trafficking Unit.

Many local victims come from in or around the city, but others are
bused into the Big Apple from upstate or nearby states such as
Pennsylvania and Connecticut.

There also are the women and girls brought here from overseas and
forced to work in an estimated 700 illicit “massage” parlors across the
city.

Of course, there are adults who choose to become escorts. But police say they’re the minority.

“I can confidently say the majority — the overwhelming majority — of
people engaging in sex for money are doing it against their will,” says
Klein, who has run the vice unit for the last two years.

“There’s no cookie-cutter pimp,” Klein says.

Some are gang members or drug dealers hunting new revenue streams.
Others are just teenagers themselves and from a family of traffickers.
They’re men and women, white, black, Asian and Hispanic.

But all traffickers have made the same sick calculation.

“You can sell a gun once, right? You could sell a kilo of coke once
. . . But once it’s gone, it’s gone,” Klein says. “But a woman or a
person, that’s 15 times a day every day . . . for as many years as you
possibly get out of that person. That’s a never-ending cycle.”

Interior of a homeless shelter were the sex trafficking enterprise operated in Harlem.

The pimps often sweet-talk the girls into joining them, but once
their victims realize the glamorous life they were promised is anything
but, that’s when things turn violent.

“One guy kept [a girl] in a dog cage because she wasn’t cooperating,” Klein says.

A 17-year-old girl trafficked by convicted Queens pimp Ricardi
“Dirty” Dumervil escaped only to be kidnapped again, burned with
cigarettes and bashed with a gun before being dragged to Atlantic City
to keep working, according to Melton.

And the 14-year-old who watched the Snoop Dogg film? She was found locked in a closet surrounded by pots of urine.

These thugs aren’t just operating out of decrepit buildings in the
worst parts of town, and their victims aren’t necessarily kept locked
up.

“It happens right under our noses . . . This is something that could
be happening right in our neighborhoods,” says Juanito Vargas, vice
president of the victim-assistance nonprofit Safe Horizon.

“You go to the deli in your neighborhood and are served your morning
coffee by someone, and you don’t know if that person is being
trafficked,” he says.

There was the Prospect Heights apartment where those two 16-year-olds
were allegedly forced to turn tricks in fear for their lives by a trio
of 20-somethings.

There was a Bronx homeless shelter just blocks from Yankee Stadium
where convicted sex trafficker Maria Soly Almonte repeatedly prostituted
out three of her sisters and a 13-year-old girl.

When she wasn’t turning tricks, the 13-year-old attended eighth grade
at PS 29 — where the school nurse figured out what was going on when
the girl came in weekly requesting STD and pregnancy tests.

At a Howard Johnson hotel in Brownsville, Brooklyn, a couple
allegedly forced two 14-year-old runaways to have sex with man after man
and give up all their earnings.

And at a Manhattan youth shelter, kids escaping broken homes were
lured into a life of prostitution with offers of booze, cash and a warm
bed — lured by ads posted openly on Craigslist.

“Are you a female that wants to stop living in Covenant House?” it read, alongside photos of tequila and hundred-dollar bills.

When the 14-year-old Snoop Dogg fan was rescued from the closet, she
first told police and prosecutors that she wanted to be in there, Melton
says.

It’s a prime example of why it’s so hard for police to catch and
convict traffickers: The women and girls often don’t see themselves as
victims.

Making matters worse, antiquated state laws don’t recognize underage
prostitutes as victims of trafficking, either, unless there is clear
force or coercion, so their cooperation is often crucial.

With limited resources for survivors, it’s a tough sell.

“We’ve had girls say, ‘At least I have a place to sleep — yeah, he
beats me, but at least . . . I’m not sleeping in the gutter,’ ” says
David Weiss, a senior assistant district attorney in Brooklyn.

Meanwhile, immigrants working in massage parlors often also fear
deportation and are typically trafficked by members of their own
communities.

“They are so hard to crack,” says Assistant District Attorney Laura
Edidin, head of the Brooklyn prosecutor’s Human Trafficking Unit. “Both
because the way in which money is moved out of massage parlors is
sophisticated and because women who are being exploited in those massage
parlors are very unlikely to come forward.”

And most NYPD cops simply aren’t trained to deal with the survivors, critics say.

“I had to stand in a hospital with a rape victim and nearly got
myself arrested with these huge cops towering over her, demanding
answers,” says Rachel Lloyd, founder of the anti-trafficking
organization GEMS and a survivor of trafficking herself.

Just recently, glaring staffing and training issues with the NYPD’s
Special Victims Division — whose cops sometimes have first contact with
trafficking victims — were exposed in a scathing report by the city
Department of Investigation.

Still, police and prosecutors say they’ve made huge strides in recent years against sex trafficking.

District attorneys now have dedicated units for tackling trafficking,
more citizens are calling the NYPD tip line, and law enforcement is
actively working with nonprofits to find and help the victims.

Last year, the NYPD announced that it had added 25 detectives to the vice unit and formed a joint task force with the FBI.

The department has also shifted its focus to busting pimps and johns rather than prostitutes.

“It is an overwhelming problem; it can feel that way,” says Manhattan
Assistant District Attorney Carolina Holderness, chief of the borough’s
Human Trafficking Response Unit. “We’re just trying to hit it with
everything we have.”

Lloyd adds, “When you take a long view, there’s been significant progress.”

Still, she says, “when you take the immediate view, good grief, there
are so many gaps and so many ways we are failing our kids.”

Inside New York’s silent sex trafficking epidemic

trannosphere:

Transactivism >< women’s rights

“You might as well call it the GBTQ Commission”— Lone lesbian pushed off Baltimore committee