since terfs/radfems/whatever have found my blog since i stood up for my friend, i just want yall to know that you’re not really that revolutionary for focusing on physical sex as an ultimate determiner of behavior and gender identity
im not saying that men are good, it’s just that not all people who have a gender assigned at birth are that gender. if you were truly gender abolitionists like some of yall say, you would be past the point of assuming that certain sexes a) correlate with an inherent gender and b) correlate with an inherent goodness/badness bc gender and sex is much more nuanced than just male/female and yall should know that by now.
also every single one of yall with “vulva” in your url is probably gonna get purged for nsfw content on dec. 17th so just brace urself for losing ur “safe space”
You don’t even know what we believe. You’re arguing a strawman that has NO relation to our actual beliefs. We’re not gender essentialists. We don’t believe that sex has any relation to behavior. That’s quite literally our point. That gender – the socialized idea of behaviors/roles/etc attached to each sex – is bullshit. You know what? Here, have it in simple graphic form.
The graphic stops just short of fully explaining why we don’t like gender. It’s not just a social construction, it’s a mechanism of oppression. The oppression of women, as well as the related issue of homophobia. Let Sheila Jeffries explain it:
Transgenderism depends for its very existence on the idea that there is an ‘essence’ of gender, a psychology and pattern of behaviour, which is suited to persons with particular bodies and identities.This is the opposite of the feminist view, which is that the idea of gender is the foundation of the political system of male domination. ‘Gender’, in traditional patriarchal thinking, ascribes skirts, high heels and a love of unpaid domestic labour to those with female biology, and comfortable clothing, enterprise and initiative to those with male biology. In the practice of transgenderism, traditional gender is seen to lose its sense of direction and end up in the minds and bodies of persons with inappropriate body parts that need to be corrected. But without ‘gender’, transgenderism could not exist. From a critical, feminist point of view, when transgender rights are inscribed into law and adopted by institutions, they instantiate ideas that are harmful to women’s equality and give authority to outdated notions of essential differences between the sexes. Transgenderism is indeed transgressive, but of women’s rights rather than an oppressive social system.
Now that you know, at least argue what we actually believe.
This is what happens when I movement isn’t allowed to be criticised. Also trans activism is proof transwomen are men. Their attitudes. Their behaviour. Male through and through.
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Report and Block.
Hello, it’s your friendly neighbor Spencer here to remind you that if you’re trying to ruin a business because you think the owners are bigots for supporting a women’s shelter…
But it’a not the majority. It’s you overfocusing on a bad fraction and painting it as the norm.
Also you women are just as capable of being trash as men.
In my experience, even more.
There is no epidemic of women raping men, of women putting roofies in men’s drinks so they can rape them, filming the rape and sharing it with their female friends or putting it on the internet, there’s no epidemic of men being gang raped by women, there is no epidemic of men being murdered by women or beating them into the emergency room. But nice try, moron.
Okay, fine, let’s pretend for a second that it’s only a minority of men that hurt women. Let’s change the snake analogy. 10,000 venomous snakes are coming toward you. 500 of them are friendly and want to help. 500 actively intend to bite you. Another 2,000 don’t actively intend to but don’t care enough not to and does have poisoned others in the past, and the rest would never bite you themselves, but care more about venomous snakes being seen as dangerous and don’t actually care to help you. Do you leave your door open hoping the 500 snakes can convince the 7,000 snakes not to let the 2,500 bad snakes bite you, carelessly or intentionally, or do you just shut the door?
You shut the fucking door.
And also, I feel obligated to add that venomous snakes are not comparable to dangerous men. They’re just animals trying to survive. They don’t want to eat humans and only use their venom as a defence against animals they don’t want to eat that could hurt them. So just leave them alone if you see them, and make your presence known by stomping on the ground or using long sticks to part the grass if you can’t see them so that they can get away from you before you accidentally sneak up on them and startle them.
10th rule of misogyny: The worst thing about male violence is that it makes men look bad.
Has he Learned to treat your opinions with respect, even when they differ strongly from his?
Is he accepting of your right to express anger to him, especially when it involves his history of mistreating you?
Is he respecting your right to freedom and independence? Does that include refraining from all interference with your friendships and giving up the demand to always know here you are and whom you are with?
Has he stopped making excuses for his treatment of you, including your behavior as and excuse for his?
Is he being respectful about sex, applying no pressure and engaging in no guilt trips?
Has he stopped cheating and flirting with other women, or using other behaviors that keep you anxious that he will stray?
Does he listen to your side in arguments without interrupting, and then make a serious effort to respond thoughtfully to your points, even if he doesn’t like them?
Have you been free to raise your grievances, new or old, without retaliation from him?
Has he stopped talking about his abuse as if it were an accident and begun to acknowledge that he used it to control you?
Is he actually responding to your grievances and doing something about them (for example, changing the way he behaves towards your children)?
Has he greatly reduced or eliminated the use of controlling behavior (such as sarcasm, rolling his eyes, loud disgusted sighs, talking over you, using the voice of ultimate authority, and other demonstrations of disrespect and superiority) during conversations or arguments?
When he does slip back into controlling behavior. does he take you seriously when you complain about it and keep working on improving?
Is he being consistent and responsible in his behavior, taking into account how his actions affect you without having to constantly be reminded?
Is he acting noticeably less demanding, selfish and self-centered?
Is he being fair and responsible about money, including allowing you to keep your own assets in your own name?
Has he stopped any behaviors that you find threatening or intimidating?
Has he significantly expanded his contribution to household and child-rearing responsibilities and stopped taking your domestic work for granted and treating you like a servant?
Has he begun supporting your strengths rather than striving to undermine them?
Have you had any major angry moments with him in which he has shown a new willingness to conduct himself non-abusively?
it is a harry potter fanfic from like 2009, 160k words, 50 chapters
basically, adult Harry accidentally goes back in time and wakes up on his 11th birthday again, but with all his memories of the future intact
(the way he travels back makes no sense whatsoever but it doesn’t really matter)
harry decides upon 3 goals:
fuck up as much shit as possible
make a shitload of money
save some lives or whatever
it is
H I L A R I O U S
his go-to explanation for how he knows what’s going to happen?
he has a psychic scar
(hermione is SO PISSED about this)
(neville’s like “either he’s psychic, or he’s the greatest conman alive”)
everyone just sort of assumes harry’s insane and he doesn’t do much to dispute this
harry also decides to make it his mission in life to LOSE the house cup every year
“snape is my sole ally”
he also goes out of his way to befriend neville, ginny, and luna earlier this time, so they’re part of the gang throughout and it’s great
even draco is a friend!
(kind of)
(when harry’s not spreading a rumor that draco’s the lovechild of narcissa and snape, anyway)
harry’s motivation for everything he does in this story is basically, “oh, this will be hilarious”
either that or, “it’s probably a tax deductible”
because the way lockhart is written in this story is also amazing and harry ends up teaming up with him to merchandise The Boy Who Lived so he can have cash to burn
(so he gets a LOT of shit done via bribes)
it gets to the point where harry is able to convince everyone that he’s not the heir of slytherin…. because if he was, he’d have found a way to make money off of it
and everyone’s like “yeah ok that checks out”
in this timeline, neville’s boggart isn’t snape…. it’s harry as the minister of magic
harry also decides to make sure cedric lives by quizzing him constantly on what to do if he ends up in a graveyard
harry: by the way, that reminds me – cedric. graveyard.
cedric, not even really listening: run like hell.
the sheer magnitude to which harry does not give a fuck in this timeline is truly awe-inspiring
he mouths off to everyone, and i mean everyone. lockhart, snape, the dursleys, malfoy, friggin’ voldemort
everyone is like “what… what the fuck, harry”
(though by the end of first year it’s more like “… *deep sigh* … fine.
snape is so angry
it’s fucking hysterical and just about everyone ends up better off
Honestly, I wouldn’t mind the gender nonsense so much if we went back to “sex and gender are distinct things and yes I’m female but I identify as a man” bc then at least it wouldn’t be so dangerous to women. I’d still roll my eyes at nonbinary peeps and “starself” but at the end of the day it probably wouldn’t affect people outside of their social circle. Trying to abolish sex-based identifiers on a legal level and saying “sex is a social construct/it doesn’t exist” HURTS PEOPLE. ESPECIALLY WOMEN. We have spent so much time fighting for protections from sex-based oppression, yet in one fell swoop genderists are trying to destroy all of that work by erasing the concept of sex on both the social and legal levels. It’s ridiculous.
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